This is such an controversial subject...
I believe in doing what is right for you and your family, I also know why sleep deprivation was used as torture.
Some people can function on not much sleep some people can't.
I don't think any mother undertakes the CIO method lightly because listening to your baby cry is torture of another kind and if your not 100 percent ready you will most likely fail.
After months of little sleep night after night, I couldn't take anymore but also Harper couldn't he was always tired with poor weight gain the doctors told me he needed to get some sleep, he was waking every hour and a half to every forty minuets, every. single. night. I was a wreck and so tired I didn't have a lot left to give.
So I did what I thought I would never do I let my baby cry.
I won't lie it was one of the hardest things I've done and each night I cried in the next room with him.
I used a routine by Tizzie Hall and found her to be brilliant I strongly recommend the book save our sleep to any mothers looking for help. I followed it down to the minute for the first couple of weeks, I got results within a couple of days. Harper learnt to self sooth and it was amazing. After a couple of months sleep pattens changed and I wasn't as regimented with the routine, he started crying when I put him down to nap, I gave him back a dummy I didn't want to go through anymore crying, after leaning to self sooth he didn't wake at night if his dummy fell out and went down with no fuss.
These days if Harper wakes in the middle of the night I usually bring him to bed with us and I'm fine with that, I always wanted him in bed to snuggle but was terrified of cot death, now I feel I have the best of both worlds Harper naps with no fuss, he sleeps well at night and sometimes he comes to bed with us but he will always go to bed in his cot so I'm not having to lye with him or rock him but most of all I don't have to listen to him cry.
So to a point I believe in some form of sleep training, when its really needed and if it feels right but most of all I believe in routine.
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You're right you should do what's best for you! I would never do the Cry it out method before Kingston was 6 months old but after that this mommy needed some sleep. I read the happiest baby on the block and followed it and Kingston picked it up. He sleeps through the night since then and we haven't looked back. As long as our babies are healthy happy and safe that is all that matters. xoxo
ReplyDeleteI do the self sooth method as at the moment i'm trying to get philip off his dummy when he sleeps. Hes not had it during the day for months but i wnated to take it off him slowly and not all at once. My husband on the other hand cant stand listening to Philip cry so when I'm at work 3 nights a week he gives him the dummy and then I have to start over again. Philip is still not used to having no dummy but when its bin day this week its going (once i find it. Philip seems to have hidden it somewhere).
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